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You've managed to work out a fitness plan for other areas of your life such as diet, exercise, friendships, finances, etc. But what about the fitness of your relationship?

Take TURNS — Relationship Advice

Healthy relationships require care and work to maintain closeness. It is important to remember that there are two people in the relationship and it requires a lot of give and take. Stop trying to change each other. Knowing your own strengths and weaknesses, and the areas that you need to improve in as an individual will help you deal with your spouse's shortcomings in a more positive way. Successful relationships include communication, respect, trust, sharing, teamwork, individuality, etc. Fighting fairly, supporting one another, and not holding grudges all help with this goal.

Improving Your Relationship

In order to improve your relationship, you must find time to work on it.
In today's busy, modern world, you need to find time for each other. This is not easy if you both have hectic careers, and becomes even more difficult when you have children. But if both of you are willing to make things better, then you need to look at your joint schedules and find time when you can be together.
If you don't find time, improvement will be slow or non-existent. If you can make time to talk and to be together, you may well overcome your difficulties.

Successful Relationships

Successful relationships are based on the following:
Trust and respect. Trust is an important aspect of any relationship. A sense of trust is present when each person feels safe to be open, honest and genuine. Respect helps build this through not judging or criticizing the other's opinions, feelings and beliefs.
Communication. It is your responsibility to know what you want and determine how to achieve it. Make any requests of your partner clear and direct. Do not blame your mate for your failure to assert yourself. Listen to what your partner has to say. Avoid blame and judgment. Do not make assumptions. If something is unclear, seek clarification. Don't let your emotions dictate your behavior.
Team approach. When tough times hit, try to remember you're on the same team. You either both win or both lose. Support each other and work together. Relationships are not meant to be a tug of war against each other. In fact, you both should be on the same side pulling against the world.
Manage conflict fairly. Address behavior without criticizing the person. Know where your partner's vulnerable spots are and never use these during conflicts. Judging your partner undermines a relationship.
Deal with problems as they arise. Conflict is a natural part of any relationship. Addressing differences one at a time helps avoid bad feelings. Do not hold grudges. Learn how to work through the matter and let it go.
Share responsibility and decision making. Healthy relationships are an equal partnership. This applies to the work involved as well as the power dynamics between the couple.
Take care of yourself. It is difficult to be of use to others when we are tired and have depleted our physical, mental, and emotional resources. Take care of your body and mind. Make sure that you get the help you need so that you can be available to your spouse, physically, mentally, and emotionally.

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