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You've managed to work out a fitness plan for other areas of your life such as diet, exercise, friendships, finances, etc. But what about the fitness of your relationship?

Take TURNS — A Healthy Relationship

Successful relationships just don't happen overnight. It takes a lot of work but it can be a very rewarding feeling.

Let your feelings be known

Successful couples often share what is going on in their hearts and minds. They do not leave it up to their mate to assume what they want from the relationship. They let their partner know what they are feelings and any desires they may have.

Maintaining a Healthy Relationship

Here are some basic relationship rules that will keep you headed in the right direction.

1. Understand that successful relationships don't happen overnight. They take a lot of work. Couples must be willing to share what's going on in their hearts and minds and be willing to work toward solutions.

2. Stop thinking that you will change your partner. You can only change yourself, not your partner. If you love someone and think that after a while he or she will change behaviors you do not like, think again. If you want changes, discuss them with your partner, so he/she knows what you need.

3. Get in touch with your emotions. Sometimes we hold on to a deep resentment from a previous disagreement that can cause a lot of current friction. When you get upset, examine what is going on inside you, rather than getting angry with your partner. Sometimes we may find that we are not upset for the reasons we think we are. However, if we are honest with ourselves, we can usually work through our emotions, toward a solutions.

4. Recognize that men and women are very different. Understanding and celebrating our differences will make living together more peaceful, interesting and fun.

5. Honor each other in some way every day. You have the opportunity to make your relationship deeper and more meaningful by recommitting to your mate. Feeling respected and cherished by the one you love makes the relationship healthier.

6. Do not stay angry for long periods of time. Resolve your anger as soon as possible. It is difficult to see the good when you are angry. If you are annoyed with your mate, give yourself some time to calm down and then calmly discuss what's going on with you.

7. Re-energize your relationship. Find ways to add spark to your relationship. Go to a couples workshop, talk with a counselor or read a relationship book together at least once a year. Even if you don't think that you need ideas, the process alone will help to strengthen your connection.

8. Become best friends. Some ways that this can be accomplished include spending quality time together, sharing with each other, keeping the lines of communication open, etc.

9. Be responsible for your own happiness. No other person can make you happy. It's something that you have to do on your own. If you are unhappy, don't blame your partner. Look within yourself to find out what piece may be missing for you. Work with your partner to make sure that you are both happy in the relationship.

10. Give what you want to get. Relationships offer many opportunities for give and take. If you'd like to feel understood, try being more understanding. If you want to feel more love, try giving more. It's a simple concept that really works.

There are no guarantees, but couples who practice these techniques have longer and healthier relationships than those who are not proactive in their relationship.

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